When looking for the language we use with our autistic children is useful for dividing it into categories. There are four things that concentrate when you want to use appropriate language with his son.
1. stay away from negative
One thing to remember is that the subconscious mind doesn't "hear" negatives. When you say to a child "no" to do something, that the child really going to do it, because the negative keyword is filtered by the subconscious. For example, if you tell a kid, "don't run," the child will only hear the word "run". It is better to say, "Please walk," or "I'd like you to walk" or simply "walk." Depending on how you usually talk with your child, you may have to work hard to change the way you phrase requests. Just try to concentrate on the positive and minimize negative. This means that when you request a quote for your child, you should use positive language and state what the child is doing, staying away from saying that the child is not to do.
2. break things/requests.
Another thing to remember when talking with autistic children is that they don't have the same level of concentration as an adult, or even another child does. For this reason, it is important to break down the tasks for them so they won't feel overwhelmed. It's so easy for us to just say "clean up your room", but an autistic child doesn't know where to start. You need to break it down and ask him to clean her clothes only. You can even tell you to pick up the clothes according to color. tell it to pick up the Red clothes, then blue, then clothes clothes pink. Then ask him to clean up their toys. You'll get better results and your child will feel better about it too.
3. offer options
Children of any age need to feel like they are in control of their lives and this need may be even more pronounced in autistic children. After all, she is trapped inside a mind that she knows that she needs to communicate, but also knows that she cannot. Autistic children also do not like change, which is part of life. This must be extremely frustrating. Giving an autistic child the ability to make choices, you can help alleviate some frustration in the situation of the child. The key to doing this is to ensure that the choices are simple, otherwise you risk overwhelming the autistic child, which will very likely cause undesirable behavior instead of prevention. Of course, there are some things that children simply have to do, but you can make it easier for them, offering options around these things. For example, they have to eat, but by offering them a choice of what to eat, they can take what they like and feel good about it. If your child is non-verbal or not very verbal, can still offer food options using images and having it point to the image of what she wants. The ability to control your life is something that we all want and should value this need in our children.
4. talk with them and with them positively
Your child will be everything you tell them consistently and his positive message can make the difference between his autistic son growing up to be an adult working in a career that she likes or an adult who has difficulty functioning in society. Have you ever met an autistic adult who was happy in his life and career and said their parents always told her that she could do anything she wanted and that she could get anything? Well, guess what? She did just that. But if these same parents had said that the same child that she wasn't able to do certain things or that something was out of reach because of his autism, she probably would not have achieved a lot. The adult standing before you would probably have a very different life.
If you complain that his son is slow and then it will be slow. However, if you tell her she is smart and what it can do anything she wants, she will have that in your life and you'll see it in their efforts in school and beyond. It is important to convey to your child that she is great. When you do this, the child will be great and believe they are great.
The key is that when you use the appropriate language with children becomes a win-win situation for everyone.
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